Value-Play™ / High5-Time™
- Introduction to Value-Play / High5-Time / Video
- Social Video Story: The Secret to Successful Relationships: It's all about the kind of Value that one brings / Video
* * * The story, The Secret to Successful Relationships is the basis for Value-Play and is the initial lesson taught and retaught at the beginning of each social skills series. Click on the link above or see the video here, directly below. And, feel free to download the printed version of the story:
The Secret to Successful Relationships (Elementary)
The Secret to Successful Relationships (Older Elementary)
- Social Video Story: The Secret of Making Friends (Middle - High School Version) / Video You can also dowload the printed version of The Secret to Successful Relationships (Middle - High School)
1 How to Listen: Listening Position / Updated Video (prior Video) / How to Listen Lesson
2 Greeting by using the person’s name (and using the person’s name in general) / Video / Greeting-Bye-Name Lesson / Greeting-Bye and Using Name Advanced Lesson / Greeting-Bye-Name Use High-5 / Greeting-Bye-Name Use High-5 w-Value Amount (NEW)
3 Sharing / Video /Sharing K-2nd Lesson / Sharing-Taking Turns Lesson / Sharing MS-HS Lesson / Sharing MS-HS Hi-5 Lesson
4 Complimenting / Video / Complimenting Younger Elem Lesson / Complimenting Elem-Advanced Lesson / Complimenting MS-HS-Advanced Lesson / Complimenting MS-HS Hi-5 Advanced Lesson
5 Taking Turns Talking: The 2 Question Rule / Video / 2Q-Rule Lesson / Sample 2Q Rule Questions
6 Staying on Topic / Video / Staying on Topic Lesson / Staying on Topic Game
7 How to Interrupt the right way / Video / How to Interrupt Lesson / Interrupting using Clues Lesson
8 Starting a Conversation / Video / Starting a Conversation Lesson (see #12 Introudcing Topics of Interest)
9 Joining a Conversation / Video / Joining a Conversation (Elem-younger) / Joining a Conversation (Elem-MS)
10 Maintaining a Conversation / Updated Video (prior Video)
11 Ending a Conversation (& Saying Goodbye) / Video / Ending a Conversation-Saying Goodbye Lesson KG-Early Elem / Ending a Conversation-Saying Goodbye Lesson - Elem / Ending a Conversation-Saying Goodbye Lesson - MS-HS
12 Introducing Topics of Interest (visible clues) / Video / Finding Social Clues KG-Elem Lesson / Finding Social Clues - Elem Lesson / Finding Social Clues - MS-HS
13 Introducing Topics of Interest (invisible clues) / Video / Remembering Social Clues KG-1st Grade / Remembering Social Clues - Elem Lesson / Remembering Social Clues - MS-HS
14 Being Silly vs. Being Funny / Video / Silly vs. Funny Lesson - version (A) / Silly vs. Funny Lesson - version (B) / Silly vs. Funny Lesson - version (B) MS-HS / Silly vs. Funny Worksheet 1 / Silly vs. Funny Worksheet 2
15 Introducing Yourself / Video
16 Getting to Know Someone New / Video
17 Three Steps to Compromising / How to Compromise when playing Lesson - Elem
18 Initiating Play / Video / Initiating Play Younger Elem Lesson / Initiating Play Elem-MS Lesson /
19 Joining in on Play / Video / Joining in on Play Elem Lesson / Joining in on Play Older Elem-MS Lesson
20 Ending Play / Video
21 Staying within your Personal Space and out of others / Keeping to your own space-Don’t be a Space Invader Lesson
22 Play Together - Stay Together / Play Together - Stay Together Lesson
23 How to Use Words to Get Your Friend's Attention
24 Being a Friend on the School Bus (NEW-ish) / Riding the School Bus with Friends Lesson
25 How to Win / How to Lose with a Friend / How to Win and Keep a Friend Lesson / How to Lose and Keep a Friend Lesson
26 Introducing a Game of Interest with Invisible Play Clues
27 How to Initiate and Maintain Pretend Play (i.e., recess play) / How to Join in on Pretend Play
28 Playdate Strategies: Using your Friendship Skills when it counts / Playdate-Recess Strategies with Flexible Thinking
29 (Advanced) How compromising shows your friend how important he/she is
30 (Advanced) Compromising with your friend when it is really, really hard to
32 Accepting Help from another person
33 Assigning (social) Value to a social exchange
34 How to know when a friendship is “equitable”
36 The Circle of Friendships and Acquaintances: Getting along with everyone (The Golden Rule)
37 Keeping Calm (and Carrying On)
38 Setting up and Going to Your Calm Place
39 Problem Solving: Finding Solutions
40 Problem Solving: Balancing the Problem with Solution(s) / Solving a Problem by Balancing with Solution(s) Lesson / Review Balancing the Problem with Solution(s) Lesson
41 Deciding what is a Small to Big Problem / And "No Problem"
42 Recognizing Feelings (Facial Expressions and Emotional Intent) / Recognizing Feelings Lesson
43 Perspective Taking: How others may be thinking something different than me
44 Perspective Taking: How my behavior affects what others may be thinking or feeling / How my behaviors affect what others may be thinking or feeling Lesson
45 Perspective Taking: Making a Clever vs. Extreme Comment; Review of Funny vs. Silly
46 Talking to Others when Upset
47 Understanding and Dealing with Anger
48 Cool Thought vs. Hot Thought
49 Don’t let in Mr. Polar Head (rigid thinking) / Polar Thinking Lesson / Option Thinking Lesson / Polar Man vs. Option Man Cards
50 Option Thinking vs. Polar Thinking (flexible over rigid thinking)
51 How t0 block-out or limit noises and distractions (The ability to “Filter”) (NEW)
52 How to avoid getting emotionally overwhelmed by content/information that is very difficult (i.e., slavery, war, poverty, etc.) (Again, the ability to “Filter”) (NEW)
53 Dealing with Making a Mistake (Introduction to Trial & Error) (Updated) Lesson Plan
54 Trying when the Work is Hard (Trial & Error: How the brain works) (Updated)
55 Trying Something New (How we learn almost “everything” through Trial & Error; Developing Grit) (Updated)
56 Accepting “No” for an Answer
57 Dealing with being Teased and Bullied (and Acts of Aggression) – incl. research findings
58 Dealing with Being Left Out
59 Being Assertive in a Respectful Way
60 Safe vs. Unsafe Behaviors w/ Peers and Adults
61 Good News vs. Bad News (Coping Skill)
62 Let’s Do Something Different – Learning to cope around unexpected changes
63 Social Repair: Saying “I’m sorry” once and then Fixing the mistake
64 Using your Inside Voice – Not talking too loud with your friends
65 The Importance of Telling the Truth when Starting and Joining a Conversation
66 How Repeating a Question or Comment over and over again can Tire Your Friends Out
67 Eating and Talking (or Talking while Eating) - How to manage both successfully (NEW)
68 When to Tell On Someone…and When not to
69 Why Friends Keep (certain) Secrets
70 Avoiding Sensitive Topics (Perspective Taking)
71 Knowing when you are going overboard with what you are saying or doing (Perspective Taking) / Overboard Lesson / Overboard-basic version Lesson
72 Use of Idioms and Sarcasm within a conversation with your friend
73 Sarcasm: Friendly vs. Put-down
74 How to Handle Multiple Conversations that are happening at once
75 How to Stay Connected with the friend right next to you while staying “connected” with a device in your hand
76 Review of Social Repair Skills
77 Calling a Friend on the Phone
78 Answering the Phone / Talking with a Friend
79 Texting (Everyone is doing it)
80 Short vs. Long Distance Friendships (NEW)
81 Managaing your online friendships/connections: How many friends do you really need? (NEW)
82 Games of Luck vs. Games of Skill
83 Knowing when to be Cooperative vs. being Competitive
84 Looking for Group Dynamics (Clues) within a new environment
85 Predicting what Group Dynamics/Clues you might see and being ready (Exec. Functioning)
86 Matching your own behavior with others: Mirroring your own behavior based on what others are doing
87 Time Management Skills (Exec. Functioning)
88 Review: Gaining Positive Attention from your Friends
89 (Advanced) Playdate Strategies: Using your Friendship Skills when it Counts
90 (Advanced) Brining up an Topic of Interest while monitoring your Friend’s Response
91 (Advanced) Complimenting
92 Learning to Delay Gratification (Exec. Functioning / Self-Discipline)
93 Growing Up: Developing your Time-Line of Social/Emotional Milestones in relation to others (i.e., when do people stop worrying about who is in line first, when do kids begin to walk vs. run to the bus, etc.) (Perspective Taking)
94 Examining your Strengths and Challenges
95 Dealing with your Fears: Harry and the Terrible Whatzit by Dick Gackenback
96 What can we learn from Harry and the Whatzit?
97 Social Sequencing: How earlier social behaviors lead to a variety of (predictable) social outcomes (NEW-ish)
Including and in addition to the above lessons, there are an increasing number of specialized content areas that may or may not necessarily be related to social development. The following are lessons that are either included within the larger curriculum or can be taught separately (i.e., within a mini-series of 3-5 individual or group sessions).
- Note Taking (an Executive Functioning Task)
- Impulsive urges - Knowing how impulsivity works and getting a handle on it
- Transitioning to 3rd Grade (How Recess and Lunch tend to evolve beyond K-2nd Grade)
- Using Conversation Builder (app) within Value Giving and Taking examples
- Managing your online friendships/connections
- Learning to be Safe with peers and adults (avoiding being fooled or set-up)
- How to block-out or limit noises and distractions (The ability to “Filter”)
- Related to the above: How to avoid getting emotionally overwhelmed by content/information that is very difficult (i.e., slavery, war, poverty, etc.) (Again, the ability to “Filter”)
- Learning about Delay of Gratification and Making Better Choices
- Building up perseverance or “Grit” when things become difficult - an extended series of lessons on how we learn almost everything through Trial & Error
****And rubato app and rubato+ app are finally here and available on the apple app store for iPhone and iPad. Real-time, time management!
Real-time, time management! A teaching and learning tool for Executive Functioning as it relates to time management, prioritizing, and delay of gratification. Check out the how-to demo video and benenfits of the app: http://youtu.be/zU-VBxTsO-E
rubato+ app And with “rubato+” you can program multiple hours, link consecutive hours together, and create folders to save all your clocks, “+" plenty of other neat features.
*A few sections of the above curriculum are loosely based on the work of Dr. Jed Baker (http://www.jedbaker.com/) (http://socialskillstrainingproject.com/) though the overall teaching approach and resulting lessons are developed with pinciples supported witin Applied Behavior Analysis and often tap into other online resources that are available to the public.